Friends! Ones you can depend on.
FRIENDS
For some reason, this chorus to the Whodini song "Friends" has been in my head for the last several weeks!
I can recall my father telling me that in life I will likely have very few "Friends". He said I will have many acquaintances but very few that I can truly call a friend. Although I think that this is true in most situations and I do have many acquaintances, I can say without a doubt that I am very blessed to be able to call several people in my life my friend.
I count them from so many places. They are my family, high school and college friends, sorors, co workers and several I was introduced to through hobbies like dance school and stepping!
I am truly thankful. Many of you have probably seen the email about different types of friends that has been passed around several times. For those of you who haven't, here you go:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
Then people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
Every time I read this, I feel a sense of joy. I recognize how my friends have been there in good times in bad, how we have shared millions of laughs and some tears, how they have listened and given advice, how we relate and most importantly, how we have grown. At some point in our relationship, we may have spoken every day. We still may. Now we may talk just once every couple of weeks, months or even years. None of that changes the fact that we were at some point "friends" and always will be.
I read the following in the Proverbs 31 Ministries daily devotion recently and it prompted me to go ahead and finish this post:
"So many people today are looking for meaningful relationships, yet so few actually find them. We are becoming an increasingly private society, and it seems fewer people than ever have life-long intimate friendships. Still, the desire for this kind of relationship is not only sought after, but necessary.
If you're looking for a godly recipe for relationships, look no further. Mix together love, sacrifice, loyalty, and freedom and you can create an intimate friendship that lasts a lifetime." Micca Monda Campbell
I would start naming names at this point, but I KNOW I would forget someone. Just know that if you are reading this, I count you as my ace boon coon, my partner, my homey, my sister, my brother, my compadre, my amigo, my girl, my boy, my BFF, my friend - you get the point. lol. You made me laugh, I learned something from you, I value you, I love you!
Love Always
Janelle Nicole
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